Reading List

Performance

Habits, focus, ownership and decisions under pressure.

• Book

  Atomic Habits

  James Clear

  How small, repeated changes build habits, with a four-step model of how habits form.

• Book

  High Output Management

  Andrew S. Grove

  Intel's former CEO on how a manager raises the output of a team.

• Book

  Extreme Ownership

  Jocko Willink, Leif Babin

  Two former Navy SEAL officers on how leaders take full responsibility for their team's results.

• Book

  Emotional Agility

  Susan David

  A psychologist's method for facing hard thoughts and feelings and still acting on your values.

• Book

  The Checklist Manifesto

  Atul Gawande

  A surgeon shows how simple checklists reduce errors in complex work.

• Book

  Essentialism

  Greg McKeown

  A method for choosing the few things that matter and dropping the rest.

• Book

  Deep Work

  Cal Newport

  Makes the case for long stretches of undistracted focus and gives rules for protecting them.

• Book

  Mindset: The New Psychology of Success

  Carol S. Dweck

  Introduces the concept of fixed vs. growth mindsets, showing how a belief in one's ability to learn and grow impacts every aspect of life.

• Article

  Implementation Intentions: Strong Effects of Simple Plans

  Peter M. Gollwitzer

  The 1999 paper on "if X happens, I will do Y" plans and their effect on follow-through.

• Podcast

  The Science of Making & Breaking Habits

  Andrew Huberman

  Andrew Huberman reviews the science of how habits form and how they are broken.

ParentingComing Soon

Staying regulated, holding limits and raising capable kids.

• Book

  Good Inside

  Dr. Becky Kennedy

  Develops the 'sturdy leadership' model: boundaries held by a regulated adult, not through punishment or permissiveness.

• Book

  No-Drama Discipline

  Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.

  Explains the science behind a child's brain during emotional moments and offers compassionate strategies for discipline.

• Book

  The Whole-Brain Child

  Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.

  Explains how a child's brain responds to stress and provides strategies for helping them stay regulated.

• Book

  Untangled

  Lisa Damour, Ph.D.

  Frames early-adolescent distancing as a necessary developmental transition, and addresses the grief parents often feel navigating it.

• Book

  Screenwise

  Devorah Heitner, Ph.D.

  A guide for parents to mentor children in their digital lives, covering topics like screen time limits, online reputation, and digital citizenship.

• Book

  No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame

  Janet Lansbury

  Covers tantrums, meltdowns, defiance, limits and discipline in the toddler years.

• Book

  Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids

  Dr. Laura Markham

  A guide to managing your own emotions as a parent in order to connect with your child, rather than control them.

• Book

  The Self-Driven Child

  William Stixrud, Ph.D., and Ned Johnson

  Explores how giving children more control over their own lives helps them develop motivation, resilience, and confidence.

• Book

  Smart but Scattered

  Peg Dawson, EdD, and Richard Guare, PhD

  Provides strategies for teaching children executive skills like planning and organization.

• Book

  The Opposite of Spoiled

  Ron Lieber

  Provides frameworks for talking to children about money, allowances, and the difference between needs and wants.

Co-ParentingComing Soon

Lower-conflict communication and steadier homes for children.

• Book

  The Co-Parenting Handbook

  Karen Bonnell

  A practical guide for separated parents on how to raise well-adjusted children by managing conflict and focusing on the children's needs.

• Article

  The BIFF Response

  Bill Eddy, High Conflict Institute

  A communication method for keeping co-parent exchanges brief, informative, friendly, and firm.

• Book

  BIFF for CoParent Communication

  Bill Eddy

  Teaches the BIFF method (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm) for replying to hostile email and text.

• Article

  Divorce and Child Custody

  American Psychological Association

  Covers the impact of ongoing parental tension on children, including how children register nonverbal cues at transitions.

• Article

  How to Tell Your Kids About Divorce

  Child Mind Institute

  Guidance on how to tell children about a divorce.

• Book

  Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families

  Laurene Krasny Brown, Marc Brown

  A classic children's book that helps explain separation and divorce in simple, age-appropriate terms.

• Book

  Mindful Co-parenting: A Child-Friendly Path through Divorce

  Jeremy S. Gaies and James B. Morris

  Offers a step-by-step guide to developing a positive and stable co-parenting relationship, focusing on the child's well-being.

• Article

  Four Foundations for a Successful Co-Parenting Partnership

  Janet Price, OurFamilyWizard

  Four ways to build a cordial, business-like co-parenting partnership.

• Article

  Emotional Regulation in Co-Parenting: How to Respond Instead of React

  Nicole Coleman, OurFamilyWizard

  On staying regulated so you respond to a co-parent instead of reacting.

• Article

  Understanding the Circles of Control, Influence & Concern

  Anna Katharina Schaffner, PhD

  Explains the circles of control, influence and concern, with exercises for sorting a worry into the right one.

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